The day after we got engaged, Will and I took my ring in to be resized because Will "grossly overestimated" (his words not mine) the size of my ring finger and then took the train into the city together. Will needed to go in for a final and I had some books due at the library.
Because I had a good two hours or so to kill I took my sweet time browsing through the three floors of the library including the "growing up" area of the sociology section and the section on wedding planning. First of all, can I just say that I never cease to be entertained by the progression of the sociology section of the library? It runs roughly like this: love, dating, marriage, deciding to have kids, raising kids, divorce, feminist studies!
No kidding! That's really how the section progresses!
After letting myself have (yet another) good chuckle, I wandered around trying to find the wedding planning section (it was hidden up on the top floor in a far corner between the books on quotes and the books on entertaining) and sat down to do some perusing.
Will and I aren't sure when the wedding should be. At this point, we just knew it was going to happen eventually and, because my engagement wasn't even twenty four hours hold yet, I was still very gung ho in "let's play with the idea of a wedding!"
But you know what? Those getting married/wedding planning books? Freaked me out! Every single one of them was full of long lists and "how to handle overbearing relatives that insist you do things their way" and horror stories of overbearing friends and family, ceremonies gone wrong, dress disasters, you name it. Had Will not been taking a final exam I would have sent him a "we're eloping" text message. Instead, I shoved all of the books back onto the shelves and hightailed my little ass right out of there. If I hadn't been in the library I might have let out a shriek and broke into a run. Because? Yikes!
For my entire life I have known that I don't want a huge wedding. I don't want it to be an ordeal or even an Event. I have only wanted a small wedding with close friends and family–nothing too complicated. But then, a few days ago I was walking to the store and while I was listening to my iPod, I shuffled into a song that I love and that would be a great song to walk out (after the ceremony) to. And then I thought "wait a minute! I'm a freakin' tech theater major! I live for putting on a show! I can't have something simple!" and visions of projector screens and complicated lighting started dancing in my head.
Luckily, most of those visions have passed, largely because we just won't have the budget for them. Still though, I kind of like the idea of having something really unique. Oh and I've changed my mind about the song. I can safely say that the music? Will probably not be settled on until I am more than halfway down the aisle at the ceremony itself.
So far, the only decisions that we have made are that the wedding will either be in the spring or in the fall and it will most likely be indoors. I really like the idea of an outdoor wedding but? I really really hate bees. And the carrying the flowers thing? Kind of leads to having to deal with bees. And? Just? No.
It's one of those things that, because we both agreed to take our time and just enjoy being engaged, of course we cannot stop talking about it or thinking about little details. I promise to do my best not to let this blog become all wedding! all the time! but, well… I'm engaged!
