I have finally figured out why it is that my husband and I are utterly incapable of ever saving money:
“Since you spent $140 on Pax tickets I think it’s only fair that I get to spend at least $140 on my sunglasses.”
Guess which one of us said that to the other. Here’s a hint: I already wear glasses and could probably find those fitter overer sunglass thingies for $10 if I had the dedication to hunt for them in the right shape and size.
Of course, it isn’t totally him. I can’t sit here and point to my husband and blame him for everything. Okay, I could but that would probably just bite me in my own ass later (though I can blame him for half our cupboard doors being open all the time. It’s like he’s allergic to shutting them or soemthing).
A few weeks ago, he was having one of his “there’s a game I liked playing as a kid and I want to play it now” fits (apparently this is something all gamers go through from time to time?) and found out that, to play the game he wanted to play, he’d need to buy a joystick thingie that connected to his computer via USB cable. A joystick thingie that would cost somewhere in the neighborhood of $60.
I did not say no. I did not point out that we have zero spare dollars right now. I did not remind him of our looming bills and the fact that we really truly want to move into a bigger/better place as soon as we can. Instead? I said, “Okay but then I get to buy the first two seasons of Leverage on DVD.”
We are working on changing this particular aspect of our relationship, for the sakes of our bank accounts, but I think we probably have a ways to go before we are cured.
In other news: my apartment is clean. It is clean and dusted and swiffered and bleached and vacuumed and cleaned oh my. Even the coupons I always forget to take to the store with me are organized. This is what happens when you are waiting for an assignment from your client and they have to wait for another part of your same project to get finished by someone else and your husband is at work for eight hours and cannot get in your way or undo any of your hard work for a while. Even our office is clean which is nice because now that there is not a big pile of debris threatening to eat the whole room, I can get some more work done in there.
I have thinking work, which needs to be done in the office with music blaring loudly (my most recent choice includes a mixture of Lady Gaga and Everclear, don’t ask me why it is intensely satisfying writing music but it is). Then there is the work that doesn’t require a whole lot of focus and is much better done on my laptop while I sit on the couch and watch TV. The work I am waiting on is the latter. I can’t do any of my thinking work because, well, the office is occupied by Will who, from the sounds of things is blowing things up and slashing people with swords while something that sounds like a car alarm whines in the background. It isn’t a real car alarm–I have now checked at least enough times for Will to get annoyed and say “why do you keep looking out the front door?!? It’s my game!!!”
So. I’m writing this, a long rambly list of whatever floats my boat that isn’t connected to anything super major or of any real consequence to anyone but me. What else should I tell you? Here’s something: Albertson’s $8.99 Fried Chicken meal is super delicious and has become my favorite Saturday night dinner. We finished watching FullMetal Alchemist: The Brotherhood tonight. I have been re-reading John Scalzi’s book on writing (it’s called “You’re Not Fooling Anyone When You Take Your Laptop to a Coffee Shop”).
Finally: I think that this post proves something that professional writers have been trying to pound into the heads of amateur writers for, well, ever: if you want to write well, you need to read and you need to read everything. While I am not a professional writer by any means (pfft, that will be the day), I can say that reading good writing makes me want to produce writing of my own.
You’re welcome. Peace out.
This has only been slightly proofread. Apologies to your brains.









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I bought a PAX ticket AND sunglasses… then bought a flight to Europe and a Mediterranean cruise. Clearly, I am incapable of saving money AND insane. At least you still have your mental health.
By Dave2 on 07.17.10 9:30 pm | Permalink
I think the jury is still out on that
By Erin on 07.17.10 9:42 pm | Permalink
As an upfront note, I’m envious that you’ll be able to go to Pax, and am excited for you. I’ve never been to PAX Prime, but many moons ago, my husband and I went to Necrowombicon. In more recent years we’ve been more involved with a local anime con that runs on the same weekend as PAX, Kumoricon. Not only is it easier to get to than Pax would be, but basically everyone in my local emotional support system is in some way involved with or attending K-con, so I’ve got peer pressure drawing me in. But PAX Prime sounds like a great time, and I hope you both have loads of fun.
I’m glad that the majority of the ill conceived splurges my husband and I make are things we can both agree on. For example, right now we’re both somewhat whining about the want of the Lego Harry Potter video game. He just went out and bought a bunch of Dvd’s like Observe and Report, Shutter Island, and The Haunting in Connecticut. I would have made a bigger deal about him spending a bunch of money on dvd’s if they weren’t all titles I wanted too. Plus, they were all on sale and a really good deal. Sure, that’s 20 dollars he could have spent on food, and so he’ll just ask me for more money later, I’m going to wind up paying for the dvd’s in the end. However, I don’t mind as much because I probably would have bought them anyway if I’d been in his shoes. End result would have been the same.
But sunglasses? First of all, I know there’s no way my husband would ever pay that much for sunglasses. I think he’d be hard pressed to pay more than $20 for a pair. They’d have to be the ultimate geek-cred based sunglasses known to man, like if they made special edition Dr. Horrible Goggle Shades… and just typing that makes me want something like that. Even then, he’d ask for them to be a lofty gift wish for some future holiday. I don’t think he’d ever have the gumption to try to argue $140 on an accessory as a random splurge.
I think the biggest amount of bargainning with each other was immediately following our wedding. We received a really nice amount of cash from relatives and during our honeymoon we went out and bought a bunch of stuff we didn’t get from wedding presents, most of which were necessities. I did however get some splurge purchases in of my own. My purse had recently broken and so some of that money was spent, with his blessing, on a new purse from Macy’s (and for the amount I paid for it I was forever following disappointed in its craftsmanship and will never buy a purse like that again). Also, I bought an ipod, again, with his blessing. After all was said and done, we still had some fun money left over, and he asked if he could have a plurge present too. I agreed, and he bought a Soundwave Transformer MP3 player. I believe my splurges were still more expenses than his.
Ah, the many compromises of marriage.
By Vallie in Portland on 07.17.10 11:29 pm | Permalink
How’s Scalzi’s book? Would you recommend it to someone like me who writes as a hobby?
I am the spending enabler in my relationship but thankfully my husband is the no-abler, so we balance out.
By Marilyn on 07.18.10 7:35 am | Permalink
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