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October 27, 2009
Internet, I have a question:
After you get married, does your dating anniversary fall TOTALLY by the wayside? This morning I said “happy monthiversary!” to Will–mostly out of habit and he told me that we weren’t celebrating dating anniversaries or monthiversaries anymore, only our wedding anniversary. And while I understand that–the wedding is most important, at the same time it makes me a little bit sad. And stubborn. I pointed out that when people asked how long we’d been together we’d probably say something like “well we’ve been married for [however long] but we’ve been together for [however long].” Maybe this is because we were together for more than four and a half years before we got married. It’s a little hard to break an almost sixty month habit. Will is insistent though that we shouldn’t care about the 27th anymore since we have an official wedding anniversary.
So I’m putting it to you, internet. What do you think?
Obviously there is nothing to make me stop keeping track of this in my head. I can think “we’ve been together for a lot of months!” whenever I want. But it feels a tiny bit sad to give up the whole acknowledging it out loud. I mean sure, I get a new monthiversary (the 12th) now to use as an excuse to go out to eat at a real restaurant (no husband, the Carl’s Jr drive through doesn’t count) but still…. I may not hang on to every single piece of paper I’ve ever written on anymore, but I tend to hoard important dates.
So. Internet, discuss. I know I’m probably the goober here, but what do you think? Do you still think to yourself “we’ve been together for this long and married for this long?” or does your dating history fall off the track completely? Is it a time thing–the longer we’re married, the less I’ll consider our years of dating, living together and engagement as “counting”?
Horaayy..there are 4 comment(s) for me so far ;)
I dunno. After being married for 40 years, you don’t say oh We’ve been married 40 years but we were dating for 2 years 8 months before that. I getcha though. When we get married next year, I don’t really want to give up the dating anniversary right away.
Well, the way I see it is that I’m allowed to acknowledge out loud yearly dating anniversaries, and I still think of that before my wedding anniversary. Although, now I’m getting to the point they both match. I see nothing wrong with telling Will, “hey, it’s our whatever anniversary,” and expect at least a little bit of affection to go along with it.
I’m probably not the one to ask as I read “monthiversary” with raised eyebrows.
I vote for just celebrating your wedding anniversary once a year but doing it up big. Forget dinner out–think a trip to Barbados! (Unless you’re in Barbados in which case you should think a trip to Nova Scotia.)
My husband and I went on our first date 23 Dec 1994. We got married 23 June 2001. He had a liver transplant 23 Dec 2005. We celebrate the 23rds in our life
Actually, we have only been together on our anniversary two or three times, so we usually celebrate Dec 23rd because we have always been together that day.
There isn’t a rule about celebrating, thank goodness
So just enjoy!
Kristin – The Goat
(I came over from NaBloPoMo)