At what point do you throw your hands up in the air and shout "Enough! Have some respect!" ?  When does something that is not technically your business become, at least partly, your business?  And how long do you have to wait for irritation and frustration to subside before you write about all of it on your blog?

Last night Will and I had a talk about my blog.  Not a "please don't post this" talk but a "Goddamn it, it's your blog and if they don't like what you write then fuck 'em" talk.  I've talked with some of you about the reasons I've been holding back on this blog and finally last night I talked about those reasons with Will.  We talked about the reasons for my reasons and, in some ways, cleared the air.  Obviously because I'm one of those "let's hold it in until I explode" people, Will didn't know how frustrated I was but once he knew, he said…well, I wrote that already.

So I ask you: at what point does something that shouldn't be your business become your business?

Is it when the thing that really shouldn't be your business can directly affect your life?

Is it when the thing that really shoudn't be your business does directly affect your life?

Is it when you need to make plans around the thing that shouldn't be your business but can't because you aren't supposed to ask about things that aren't your business?

You can see how quickly things get complicated.

Here's the real rant:  I am tired of people telling me what my plans are going to be and expecting to be accommodated.  I am tired of people telling me to do things for them without asking first how I feel about it.  I am tired of people just expecting Will and I to change our lives upside down for them without first asking how we feel about the upside downness or giving us a time frame for the upside down-ness to occur.  I am tired of being told when I ask what's happening "that isn't really any of your business."

So again, I ask: at what point is it my business?

At what point do I get to say: "Actually it is my business because my circumstances are affected by this too so kindly tell me what the hell is going on and what the plan is."

Also?  I'm not at all thrilled about having to work my butt off to make up for having to take three weeks off (remember the companypalooza of September?) only to find out that now I have to kick it up another notch because we'll probably be having another company fest in December.  I may or may not have cried about it for half an hour this morning….though the tears might have been brought on more by what time of the month it is.